Revisit the art of English home entertaining – “Entertaining with Style” by Paul Burrell (1999)

Dear readers, after recently meeting a French etiquette expert during her visit, I felt inspired to write about summer home entertaining; our conversation about etiquette and social protocol sparked a renewed appreciation for the art of living, which begins at home. In today’s fast-paced world, many of us prefer casual, fuss-free gatherings, the refined elegance of a beautifully set table, with fine crystal, silver cutlery, bone china in elegant patterns, artfully folded cotton napkins, and a tasteful floral centerpiece, has largely fallen out of favor, these traditions now survive mostly in historic luxury hotels or the grand palaces of European royal courts. If you’re a gentleman who still values the traditional art of home entertaining and wants to revive this nearly lost protocol, there are a few ways to start: You could hire a skilled butler, or find a book that covers these timeless topics and study it.

During my retail career with Ralph Lauren decades ago, there was a time that I was fascinated by the elegance and knowledge of royal butlers, perhaps it was the grand atmosphere of the store that inspired me to rise to the occasion and match the luxurious setting. It was then that I discovered a beautiful book titled “Entertaining with Style” by Mr. Paul Burrell, the former butler to the late Princess Diana; I was immediately captivated by the professional protocols it revealed. Today, I am revisiting this beautiful book with you all, and exploring how it might inspire your entertaining style.

Published by Andre Deutsch in 1999, this stunning vintage copy offers more than practical hosting advice, it reveals the timeless importance of table etiquette and traditional values in creating memorable entertaining experiences. Drawing on Paul’s 22 years as late Princess Diana’s butler, this book shares refined tips on setting an elegant dining table, from choosing exquisite china and cutlery, to folding napkins with finesse and arranging seasonal flowers. It also includes classic seasonal recipes for meals and drinks, some cater specifically to children and holiday occasions, making it a rich source of inspiration for anyone passionate about cooking and entertaining year-round.

Beyond appearances, “Entertaining with Style” shows how traditional etiquette forms the foundation of gracious hospitality. These customs, often overlooked today, create a sense of continuity, respect, and cultural identity; they elevate gatherings from ordinary meals to meaningful rituals. This book teaches us how to honor guests, create warmth and sophistication, and cultivate personal refinement, it also offers guidance on meeting royalty and distinguished guests, blending culinary art with social grace. Embracing these traditions enriches the dining experience and shapes our character, it encourages us to become more thoughtful, polished, and confident hosts. In a time when many of these values are fading, revisiting such etiquette reminds us that home entertaining is more than serving food, it’s a chance to celebrate culture, nurture relationships, and express respect through hospitality.

Even decades later, this book remains close to my heart. It evokes fond memories and reminds me of the importance of cultivating a sophisticated, classic English style - majestic and timeless - while appreciating novelty and embracing refined living; these lessons enrich us far beyond wearing an expensive bespoke suit, fine handmade shoes, or a high-end fragrance.

If you’re looking for inspiration for your next gathering, this book could be the perfect companion, don’t you think?